My last post explained the happenings of our baby alliance guild, and the problems caused by acting quickly when the status of the guild leadership changed.
Since then, myself and the member who had been entrusted with leadership of the alliance guild have had a good long chat and resolved the problems. In effect, we’ve hugged and made up, and all is right with the world.
But this has outlined how easy it is to cause offence, to view actions taken and words said in ways that they were never intended to be viewed – especially when you don’t know people “in real life”, it is easy to assume the worst of people. Everything that occurred over the last few days could have been avoided if contact had been maintained … if I had been more on the ball and realised in good time what might be happening with the guild leadership I would have had time to notify the guy who was leader, to get him back online. If he had realised that the de-throning deadline was coming up, he could have simply logged in on that character – or contacted me to arrange something.
Instead, we were both being reactive rather than proactive – dealing with the fall-out rather than being aware ahead of time what needed to be done.
Hopefully, this can simply be viewed as something to learn from, but I’m even more concerned for the future of our baby alliance guild now – I really don’t want to spend even more time running a second guild, but if I had felt this guy was the best man for the job at the time, and I’ve been let down by him … what are my chances of getting someone who can fulfil my expectations? Perhaps I’m just a control freak with stupidly high expectations (ask my husband, and he would certainly agree with that!!).